Community guidelines
InRealLife works because people show up, are who they say they are, and treat each other well.
Show up
Joining is a promise. If plans change, cancel your place early so someone else can join. No-shows are visible as a lower show rate.
Be yourself
Real name, real photos, real age (18+). No impersonation, no fake accounts, no coming back after a ban.
Respect people
No harassment, hate, threats, or pressure β in person or online. "No" ends the conversation. Don't share other people's information or photos without permission.
Shared activities, not shared beliefs
Activities are about something you do together, not a religion or a political side. No worship, preaching, campaigning, recruiting or debates as the point of an activity, and no activity meant for one faith or one side. Culture, history and food are welcome: a cathedral visit, an Iftar dinner open to everyone, a walking tour tracing the history of the Revolution. Your profile can say what you believe and what you're looking for, but not who isn't welcome. The same rule applies to every religion, party and belief.
Do good, have fun, go big
Every plan has a spirit as well as an activity type. The host chooses it. A person reviews Do good, Aim high, Be crazy and Dare when the description seems overstated.
π± Do goodBondable, Hangout
- The plan's point is helping people, animals or a place: a cleanup, a food bank shift, free mentoring, CV reviews for job seekers, a blood drive
- A sale or a fundraiser for a business, recruiting for a cause, a faith or a party, a paid class, a plan where helping is a side note
π FlirtFlirtify
- The classic date: a drink, a dinner, a coffee, a walk. Simple, and enough
Nothing to prove. Any date can be a flirt
π€ Connect Β· π Have funBondable Β· Hangout, Flirtify
- The default: playing, eating, drinking, moving, learning, together
Never wrong. When in doubt, it's Connect or Have fun
π Aim highBondable
- A real stretch for your work: a hackathon, a pitch to investors, a full-day intensive, a team weekend
- A coffee chat, a regular meetup, a talk you sit through
π Be crazyHangout
- Something most people do once a year or once in a lifetime: a skydive, a sunrise summit, a festival trip
- A bar night, a party with a theme, a normal game, the word "crazy" in the title
π DareFlirtify
- A date out of the comfort zone, in public: a salsa class, kayaking at sunset, a hot-air balloon ride at dawn
- Anything sexual, any drinking game or challenge, anything private
Going big has limits
- IRL never organizes risky activities: its own ambitious plans stand out for their scale, never their danger.
- Activities involving physical risk must be run by a specialist operator named in the description, such as a skydiving center or surf school.
- Nothing illegal, and nothing requiring a license you don't have.
- Multi-day plans must explain where people will sleep and who pays.
- On Flirtify, Dare follows the same rules as every date: a public place and a duration of less than 12 hours.
Host honestly
Describe what will actually happen, where and what it costs. Public places for dating activities, and whenever the host covers the bill. No selling, recruiting or promotion disguised as an activity.
Money is for the bill
The price can cover the bill, a ticket, materials, or the host's fee for expertise provided during the activity, such as a lesson, class or guided walk. On Flirtify, the host is never paid. Nobody pays or gets paid simply for their presence or company, and nobody offers or asks for money for company or sex. That's a ban in every app.
What happens when someone breaks the rules
A person reviews every report. Depending on what happened we warn, suspend or ban. We revoke hosting privileges faster than we grant them. Bans apply in all three apps.